Tuesday, February 19, 2008

No Daddy Love

For the last few weeks Jeremy has been coming home from work and has been greeted by a cranky toddler. I don't know what it is, but it seems that Kadin is all smiles and doing great, until Jeremy gets home. Nothing else changes and it's not like Jeremy is doing anything weird or remotely annoying to Kadin, unless saying hello and asking for a hug is annoying. Tonight was by far the worst though. Jeremy came home early from work because he had gone in early so he could spend more time with us tonight before going to lacrosse practice (my two/three months of single parenthood started tonight, Jeremy has lax practice most nights from now on). It was great to see him and Kadin was doing great, until he had a nasty diaper and Jeremy took him up for bath time. He screamed the whole time and I could hear Kadin doing the "mommy" whine as Jeremy was putting on his pajamas. Then Jeremy brought him downstairs and when he put Kadin down to let him come see me, Kadin turned and screamed for Jeremy to pick him up again. That would have been great, but Kadin still screamed when Jeremy was holding him. He had one of the biggest temper tantrums I have ever seen from him, complete with jumping up and down, top-of-the-lungs screaming and a plethora of tears, snot and slobber wiped all over everything within reach.
I feel bad because I don't want this to be the memory Jeremy has of Kadin's toddler years. He only gets to see him at night because thankfully Kadin has acquired the habit of sleeping in at least until 7, which is usually when Jeremy leaves, so Kadin is more often than not tired when Jeremy sees him. I feel like I get to have all these great moments with him and Jeremy gets to deal with the yuck. But then again we've been through the not-liking-daddy stage a while back and he grew out of it for a while so I guess all I can hope for is that he'll do it again!

3 comments:

Andi Sherwood said...

Just keep reminding yourself that these are "phases." Justis has had some of those weird tantrums where I end up doing everything I can to just get him to calm down so he doesn't throw up from crying so hard. :)

:)

Michaelangelo said...

It's hard when Daddy is not around very often, and when he is it's the end of the day and almost bedtime... I'm sure he'll grow out of it sometime (hopefully soon!) and then Daddy will be his favorite person and every night will be a wrestling and giggling match. Good luck until then!

Miriam said...

Poor Jeremy! Hannah went through a short phase of that and now when he comes home she is his little shadow. Hopefully things will get better soon. Maybe you need to leave him with daddy for a while on a Saturday or something so they can get some good (non tired) bonding time in (Plus a nice break for you!)